Mending Personal Relationships in Recovery

Addiction strains relationships to the maximum, which causes family members to lie, cheat and steal from each other in the process of getting and using drugs. Ergo, when it comes time for recovery, the user must be accountable for her actions and follow through on her promises for recovery; in doing so, she can begin to regain the trust of her loved ones. Addicts must be open and direct about their past transgressions, because they can show that they are making an effort to change if they go to rehab and remain involved in some type of treatment program for the rest of their lives. Until you take the first step and enroll in addiction treatment, your condition will continue getting worse along with your relationships. Take a moment to review how you can start working on personal relationships in addiction recovery.

Being Accountable for Your Addiction

Mending Personal Relationships in Recovery

One of the more difficult steps in the recovery process is to admit and own up to your past mistakes

One of the more difficult steps in the recovery process is to admit and own up to your past mistakes. When you sober up, the person you were while under the spell of addiction will fade away, which means your true self will come back out. It can hard to accept some of your past actions when it seems like a totally different person was behaving that way, but neither you nor anyone your actions affected can ignore the pain of addiction[1]. Before you got help, you may have blamed your addiction on exterior causes, like going through a divorce or losing a job, but this behavior just deflects rather than accepts blame. While addiction is a chronic disease, you still have the power to take control of your life back if you get started in treatment.

Forgiveness Takes Time

The first step in repairing relationships damaged by addiction is taking responsibility for your actions, but it is only the beginning of long-term recovery. In fact, it can take years to unravel the pain and suffering inflicted by drug abuse. In that regard, apologizing and giving the other party a chance to discuss his feelings is a start, but you must follow through on your commitment to recovery for healing to endure. The family members of an addict must deal with overwhelming grief and the disappointment of watching a loved one suffer, often for years on end; so, even if someone wanted to move forward, it may be impossible to put all that pain aside.

An addict’s behavior erodes trust, so, even after she is in recovery, it may take a considerable amount of time to rebuild trust in the relationship[2]. If progress in your relationships seems to stall after opening up to your family about your addiction, then do not get discouraged. Stay focused on your recovery and make an effort to improve the areas of your relationships where you can, because the rest will take care of itself in time.

Not All Relationships Can Be Fixed

Some relationships will return to the same level of intimacy before the addiction began, but not all relationships are salvageable. As an addict’s behavior is driven more and more by a compulsion for substance abuse, those who are closest to him may pick up extra responsibilities to cover for the addict’s poor choices. At the same time, an addict’s behavior becomes more erratic with destructive behavior, such as lying or stealing from a loved one. After an addict spends a considerable amount of time around an addict, it may be difficult for others to separate the addiction from the user. If resentment builds between the user and the people who support him, then the relationship becomes even more strained. It is possible to repair a relationship after addiction forms, but that does not mean all your relationships will go back to normal. However, if you incorporate family therapy sessions into rehab, then family members can start working through their problems. If nothing else seems to work, then you may have to give it more time; trust may have diminished in certain relationships, so improvement may seem impossible, but keep at it.

Start Rehab and Transform Your Relationships

Your relationships will continue to decline as long as you avoid help for addiction. To learn about what type of treatment is available for LSD addiction, call our toll-free helpline today—our admissions coordinators operate our toll-free helpline 24 hours a day to share detailed information about rehab centers that can help you get and stay clean. Your health insurance will probably pay for part of treatment, so have your policy information ready when you call. Getting involved in recovery is the only way for you to begin repairing the relationships you damaged with your addiction, so call now to find out more about what to expect during rehab and to evaluate your treatment options.


 

[1] http://psychcentral.com/lib/rebuilding-relationships-in-early-recovery/. Rebuilding Relationships Early in Recovery by Drew W. Edwards.

[2] http://www.bma-wellness.com/papers/Addiction_Lies_Rel.html. Addiction, Lies and Relationships by Floyd P. Garrett.